I got published! Here’s another in-betweener before my third post on Thailand.
First published on Tripzilla, on June 15, 2017.
We hear a hundred great things about solo travel. How it changes our perspective about life, that it helps us find ourselves, the stories of newly made friendships along the way – all of the things that make your eyes glisten with aspiration. These are, of course, true and essential especially for self-growth and development. However, sometimes we need to look at the reality that comes with solo travel. Here are a few things that you should ponder on to prepare yourself for that big trip:
It gets lonely
There will be plenty of opportunities for you to talk to other travellers. Sometimes you will meet them at the airport even before you fly to your destination, and hit it off from there. You’ll immediately make plans to travel together, but at other times you’ll go your separate ways.
Loneliness hits particularly those people who choose not to associate with other travellers. This could be for a whole lot of different reasons. Eventually, they realise that those exotic meals, that two-hour bus ride, or those magnificent new views are just better shared with someone else.
The expenses can be a burden
Yes, even on a budget. A three to four-day trip is fine, but going for more than a week could break the bank. This is true most especially when transferring from city to city. Inexpensive lodging won’t always be available. If the moment comes when you have to book a hotel room, you won’t have anyone to share that expense with.
Planning it alone is a hassle
It’s exciting to think about not having to depend on other people. You can see the sites at your own pace! You can choose which places to prioritise, and which ones to pass when you end up getting tired halfway through the day. But prior to that, there’s still some planning involved. There’s the task of searching the how (to get there), the what (to ride), and the which (hostel is the best). You do not want to find yourself going in circles, just because you failed to map your day out. That entire load is on you and you have no one to divide the tasks with.
It can be embarrassing
For some people, it’s a challenge to eat in restaurants alone. It’s even more of a challenge when you want to document all of your meals. Yet, you don’t want to look like another millennial who just can’t stop sharing on social media.
The same goes for taking pictures of yourself, in front of a good spot. I’m not talking about the usual selfie. I’m talking about the whole shebang. As in, setting up a tripod and taking countless of photos, because the darn camera just won’t focus on you. Trust me; I’ve acquired quite a few laughs from doing this.
Safety and security become twice an effort
Being mindful of your belongings shouldn’t even be a question. For the duration of your travel, consider everything that’s inside your bags as your entire life. This becomes a struggle at times. Wanting to go to the toilet, but having no space in the cubicle for your large sized luggage, creates a dilemma. Getting distracted during a train ride while your bags just sit there, ready for the taking, could also create a setback. Basically, you’ll have no one to help you be mindful of your belongings.
There’s also the issue of looking out for yourself, especially for women. Doing so in your home city is one thing. It’s another thing when you’re in a city not knowing the language. You could potentially get lost and you know no one who can help you in times of trouble. If you’re really one of the more cautious, you’ll have to prepare emergency numbers, hospital addresses (possibly written in the local language), list down all the nearest police station, or keep your roaming data on the entire time – a few things I have actually done, myself. No shame.
That being said, the cons of solo travel should never hinder you from going out there. The pros of solo travel will always overweigh the cons. And if the latter does find itself to you, it can be something you can learn from to prepare yourself for your many future solo travels.
I have been travelling solo now for almost three years and I wouldn’t change a thing!! I love the freedom of doing what I want. Do I get lonely? Sometimes but then it gives me a chance to reflect on what I have accomplished on my own. Great article!!
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Wow! Three years seems so long to be away from home. I’d definitely get lonely being far for that long from familiar people. Lol. But true, the freedom is tempting
thanks for reading! really do appreciate it
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I was back in Canada last summer for a month. The internet is wonderful for keeping in touch with family and friends 🙂
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Lol. True! I guess it’s the Filipino in me who doesn’t like to be far for so long.
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Yes! I love this. I try to ALWAYS be as honest as possible about the down sides of solo travel. It’s amazing and you learn so much about yourself, but it can also be so so lonely. I wouldn’t ever want someone to read my solo travel stories and feel like my life is better than there’s in some way. There are pros and cons to everything. You hit the nail on the head with these points!
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Yes! All true. We always hear the positives about solo travel. But little do we know that once we’re out there (and some are out there for months at a time), we might end up telling ourselves we want to go back home. Lol. Thank you for reading! Appreciate it. 😊
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The rewards definitely outweigh the risks! Solo travel is definitely full of those awkward moments, but they make for such good stories later. : )
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That’s true! the positives balance out the negatives!
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Haha definitely eating alone! It doesn’t seem like a big deal until you’re doing it for every meal. I’ve caught plenty of strange looks for being by myself at a big table and taking pictures of my food. Glad I’m not the only one.
Also, congrats on getting published! 🙂
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Lol thanks! Yup. Sometimes it’s awkward, sometimes i’m completely comfortable with it! I guess it depends on whether or not you’re in a restaurant filled with only groups! -which is the case for popular restaurants LOL
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Great post! Solo travel taught me to trust in myself and to live in the moment and without the negatives you highlight in this post I probably wouldn’t have learnt those things. As long as you’re smart about your safety you will always meet new awesome people, have great experiences and at worst come out with crazy stories to tell!
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Yesss! So many things we realize when we travel by ourselves. Solo travel also taught me that I work well alone, which is an advantage in most cases. Crazy stories are the best thouuughh. ❤️
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